There's a saying, "A good man knows his limitations." This isn't about being macho, Not about age, gender, education, religion, relationships, position in society.
Sometimes I have a feeling that people have no clue what that means. Especially, politicians, religious and political pundits and... did I say politicians?
Anyway, know how far you can go with something. With anything.
Yes, it means that. Many think that is all it means, or at least, they act that way. But really you know, it means so much more.
You also need to know if and how far you can and should try to push yourself beyond those limitations because that is when great things happen, when great people are exhibited to themselves and to the world.
I say "themselves" because we are a conglomeration of individuals, a multiplicity of selves we that call, "self", just to simplify things.
It is good to be aware of that, because it can be important in knowing one's limitations.
Be aware of where YOUR limitations lie.
We can and should supersede those limitations, but knowing where they end and when we are running on fumes, and luck, are all important things to be keenly aware of. Because it can get you killed. Or at least, it can ruin your connections to others.
Know when your limitations are not someone else's. Don't push them to the breaking point when sometimes, most times probably, that is up to them. Though sometimes, we should push them.
Those two things are important in relationships and in helping others. They are also important elements in ruining relationships, in harming others and in certain situations, getting them killed.
Also know when your limitations are not someone else's, in the other direction. Like when their limitations outdistance yours, or far outdistance them for that matter.
Give them their due respect.
Respecting others who deserve it, admitting when you are fallow in their shadow, really doesn't diminish you. In fact, it elevates you.
I see this a lot among those who have less training in something than they need and yet refuse to show proper respect in the audience of greatness.
Even slight greatness more than yours, in showing respect, makes you seem more than you are, not less.
I know, it's counter-intuitive, something that conservatives have a great deal of trouble with, as well as the less well formally educated, in my experience. I have no trouble showing respect to someone who deserves it, regardless of how or where they were trained or educated.
Though sometimes that alone really is worthy of respect and can be a separator issue from what they actually know or can do and again, that does confuse some.
Err on the side of caution during those times.
Few things irritate me more than someone trying to be what they are not, with inflated self-importance.
Look. I'm the first to offer respect when someone deserves it, even if they outshine myself. If you are the first to not do that, then you are a sad individual indeed. Because you are exhibiting poor self-esteem and worse you are exhibiting poor judgement.
Of others, of yourself,. Then, you are a detriment to all involved.
It's really pretty simple, and complicated. But it's even more easily defined as this really: